On the Emotionally Unavailable

It’s easy to feel stuck with someone who is emotionally unavailable—wondering if they’ll ever change, if you should stay or go, and whether emotional unavailability is just who they are.

To some extent, everyone is emotionally unavailable at times. Emotional availability isn’t a personality trait that some people are born with and others aren’t. It’s a skill—one that is shaped by life experiences, attachment patterns, and our willingness to grow.

While some people are capable of becoming more emotionally available, others are rigidly stuck in patterns that prevent connection. And knowing the difference makes all the difference.

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What Does Emotional Availability Actually Mean?

Emotional availability isn’t about being an open book 24/7 or constantly engaging in deep conversations. It’s about having the capacity and willingness to engage in emotional connection.