Stop Analyzing Other People and Face Yourself

Most social media content takes an other-focused approach to life. It promotes a mindset rooted in scrutinizing others' actions, watching for red flags, decoding cryptic behaviors, and basically becoming an unpaid behavioral analyst for every single person we date, love, fuck, or even text for more than two days. We're being taught to obsess over what someone else is doing wrong, how they're failing us, and why we should cancel, cut off, or cold-shoulder anyone who doesn't meet our constantly shifting standards of emotional perfection.

And the wildest part? All of this is under the umbrella of personal growth. Except it’s not. At all. It’s self-avoidance disguised as empowerment. It’s moral superiority masquerading as healing. And it’s dishonest. Real growth—the messy, uncomfortable, non-viral kind—happens when we shift our attention inward. When we stop narrating other people’s stories and start telling the truth about our own. When we trade blame for self-responsibility. That doesn’t mean taking the fall for everything (blame is irrelevant in this discussion); it means recognizing that clarity and healing begin when we understand our own patterns, needs, fears, and desires. Not when we figure out what someone else meant when they did whatever they did we didn’t like.