The Anxious-Avoidant Pas de Deux

A Love Story We’re All Sick of Hearing

Let’s get this out of the way: if I have to hear one more person smugly diagnose their ex as “avoidant” while proclaiming themselves to be “anxious,”, I might actually lose it. The anxious-avoidant dynamic has become the astrology of relationships — seductive, explanatory, and overused to the point of actual parody.

Yes, there’s truth in it. Yes, there’s…