The Myth of “Not Good Enough”

We live in a culture obsessed with comparison. We scroll through feeds filled with curated bodies, status markers, vacations, outfits, relationships, and think: I’m not good enough. Not attractive enough. Not successful enough. Not desirable enough. Not worthy enough.

But here’s the truth:
“Not good enough” isn’t real. It’s not an actual condition of being. It’s not a scientific diagnosis. It’s not a personality trait.

It’s a wound. A feeling. A story you learned to tell yourself when the world—or your family, or your peers—mirrored something back to you that hurt.

The Mirage of “Not Good Enough”

Every day, people decide they’re not good enough because of whatever their insecurity of the day is.

• What they look like.

• What clothes they’re wearing.

• How much money they make.

• Their relationship status.

• Their body size, skin, hairline, age.

• Whether they’re invited to the right dinner, sex party, or professional circle.

You can insert anything into this slot: job title, number of followers, how much you’ve achieved by 30 or 40 or 50. Comparison is endless, which means “not good enough” is endlessly renewable.

We compare ourselves to others and, predictably, always find someone with more of something we’ve been told matters. Then we draw a conclusion: If they’re more, I must be less.

But the conclusion doesn’t come from reality. It comes from a wound.

No One Actually Lacks Value

Here’s what’s radical but also obvious: no one actually lacks value.