In relationships, many people fall into the trap of withholding information or being dishonest to protect their partner's feelings. The intentions may seem noble—avoiding hurt, conflict, or disconnection—but the consequences of such actions can be far more damaging than we realize.
That is so true. Usually I'm always the one who ducks away. On the one hand with the feeling of fear of not hurting my partner ... or what right do I have? Then there's also a certain insecurity, are my thoughts even appropriate?
My partner always says what he thinks and I've learnt to really appreciate that about him. And I see it works.
Even when I realize I'm holding something back, I can't open my mouth ... that's also upsetting.
This post by Todd makes me realize again that giving your partner a chance is also a sign of respect. To give them a chance to make a choice themselves and not to pre-empt the choice with my silence.
That is so true. Usually I'm always the one who ducks away. On the one hand with the feeling of fear of not hurting my partner ... or what right do I have? Then there's also a certain insecurity, are my thoughts even appropriate?
My partner always says what he thinks and I've learnt to really appreciate that about him. And I see it works.
Even when I realize I'm holding something back, I can't open my mouth ... that's also upsetting.
This post by Todd makes me realize again that giving your partner a chance is also a sign of respect. To give them a chance to make a choice themselves and not to pre-empt the choice with my silence.
Thank you.